I’ve realized that my mind is playing tricks. (I’m probably not the only one, but I will focus on my experience).

I always said that I gladly accepted any feedback. I incentivized everyone to give me feedback. But my experience so far is that feedback often is negative, stupid, vague, or unproductive. It’s not limited to these options. There is also positive feedback or constructive feedback. These kinds of feedback are optimal but infrequent.

I don’t react as well as I wish I’d do to negative feedback. Even though it’s the most needed, my brain still distance itself from the comments. I feel like it refuses everything perceived as hostile/adversarial. I will work hard to keep my mind aligned and ready to collect negative feedback. Disavowing negative feedback will slow down any progress.

Stupid/unproductive feedback is a waste of time. Instead of inviting everyone to give me feedback, I will try to understand others’ opinions of my work based on their reactions and behavior. This way, it will be easier to extract effective feedback from responses. I’m aware that I have biases. I must avoid these biases that will otherwise nullify formative and productive feedback.